Thursday, March 29, 2012

So Your Sponsor Sucks...

When you move the military assigns you a "Sponsor"...someone who already lives in the location you're moving to who is there to answer any questions you may have. In some cases this person is awesome. In our case, I think we got screwed! I'm not saying our sponsor is a bad person or that she didn't try, I'm sure she answered every question we had. The problem was, we didn't know WHAT questions to ask. Also, we are civilians so some rules don't apply to us. Moving overseas is not like any other move you've had before. There are so many things you need to do BEFORE you get here and if you wait it can push dates, causes issues when you get here and can make the transition extremely painful. The web can be very helpful in many ways but it doesn't answer those questions you may not think to ask.

Many common questions answered on the Ramstein webpage. Just click "PCSing to Germany" Ramstein AB Website


My neighbor was recently asked to sponsor a family. I was over at her house and saw this letter she was working on. My jaw dropped! She was going into grave detail about the painful processes this family will encounter and I begged her to send me the letter so I could post it on my blog. She was more than willing to share it because that's the kind of person she is...giving, caring and always willing to help others.


So here is the letter:


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Hallo aus Deutschland! Germany is great, and Ramstein is a wonderful assignment.   The base is centrally located and provides numerous opportunities for traveling.  Once you settle in, the fun can begin!  However, be prepared for a stressful PCS.  We have been told that the 1st six months are for adjusting, and really believe it.  We have been here for 9 now and feel this is pretty accurate.  It takes time to learn the culture, rules, life, etc. These are just a few “tidbits” that we have learned.  Please, ask any questions you may have!!    
Vehicles:   we drive an 8 passenger Honda Pilot.   On base, we are fine.   Sometimes, it is hard to fit it into parking spaces, but not impossible.   Off base, the parking spots are very tight, parking garages don’t have enough clearance in a lot of cases.   We have to park in open-parking areas instead.   It can mean more of a walk, or harder to find a place to park, but nothing too bad (thus far).   On the flip side, the roads (especially the smaller villages) are not designed for larger American vehicles.    There are some very tight squeezes that have to be made.   We also bought a used BMW car once we got here for like $3K.    It gets Jon back and forth to work, and we could use it for local traveling if we want.   (If you have a second vehicle that you choose to ship, it will be your expense out of pocket.   Our friends shipped their Nissan Pathfinder from California last summer and it cost them around $3,000 to ship.)
Biggest piece of advice:  ship your vehicle as soon as you can!   The sooner the better!  It is MUCH cheaper to be inconvenienced in the states, and even have to rent one there if needed.    We shipped our Honda about six weeks prior to arrival (from SC) and it actually arrived a few days before we did, and it made for a much easier time looking for homes.
License:   Chuck can take the German driving test on-line before you arrive.    It is such a help because you cannot drive at all once you arrive on orders until you have the German license.    Rhianna, you probably can’t take it until you arrive (but double check, we heard some bases are changing this).    The test isn’t too hard if you study the link below, and take the practice tests.
You both can get your International Driver’s License before you get here.  We highly recommend you do this, but wait until right before you PCS (the license is good for 1 year).  All you have to do is go to your local AAA office and take 2 small photos (passport size) with you.    You fill out a paper, give them $15 (or so) and you have it.   One less thing to do when you get here J
Passports:  If you don’t have them, get your travel passports before you move here.    It is pricy, but you are told to have it (not the official one) to travel outside of Germany.    You can get one here, but I’ve heard the wait time is even longer and can be more frustrating.
German homes:  We did not know this coming here- THEY DON’T HAVE CLOSETS!    Okay, now you see how unexpected that was for us (especially having 3 daughters).    Instead, the military issues each person 1 wardrobe- which is about the size of a smaller coat closet.     They don’t build closets b/c they are taxed for each square inch and feel it is a waste of $ to pay extra for closet space.   The same holds true for bathrooms, no closet or storage space.    Bring lots of storage! J -even the cheap cabinets from Wal-Mart.   I went to the BX to buy a small cabinet for my bathroom towels.   It was almost $40 for cheap particle board cabinet.    Also, if you do have a garage, there will be no storage so bring a couple of shelving units for there as well.   Essentially, bring any cabinets or shelving you have (even if you don’t think you’d want it).   If you don’t use it, you can sell it- no problem!
We moved here in peak PCS season (last June) from Shaw AB, SC and it was a chaotic process to find a house.    Then again, we were looking for specifics to tailor our family (4 bedrooms, fenced in yard), etc.  I am hoping that because you will arrive after that (September, right?) it won’t be as crazy J   Also, your options are much broader because you don’t have to live in a particular school district.    The Germans love animals (especially dogs), so hopefully finding a pet-friendly home is not a problem.    I’m assuming you’ll want a fenced-in yard; they are available you just have to be vigilant.     We actually ended up using a real estate agent (immobilien in German) to get our house.    We didn’t want to when we first got here; but had to and honestly would recommend it if you can and are willing to spend the money.   The one we used is the same one several in Jon’s office used; she charges ½ month’s rent.  Some charge all the way up to 2 months rent for their fee.    We can give you her name, as well as a couple others so they can work for you simultaneously.    The unique situation here is the agents only show their homes (homes rented out by their office) and not homes in other agencies.   There is no MLS system so, while crazy to us, it works.  LOL
Locally, there are 2 websites that you can use to look for houses on your own.  However, there is honestly no reason to search for a house before you arrive in country using the online systems.   I say this because they only advertise homes immediately available and will NOT hold them, etc.    Chuck will also have paperwork with him that the housing office provides and it must be filled out once you find a house you want by both him and the landlords, and then submitted to housing for approval.  I know all this sounds like a lot, and is overwhelming, but it will make more sense once you arrive and he has had his in-process briefing.  We will give you guys more tips and pointers and help when you get here, so don’t worry!  Also, once we know your exact arrival date and what you will be looking for in a house, we can keep an eye out for potential homes that will be available then.
If you are curious to see houses, to get an idea, the websites are:
www.ahrn.com and www.ramsteinyardsales.com    (just go to the housing link)
I do not know much about on base housing, we actually aren’t even on the list.   For us, we wanted to live off base and experience the culture, so it wasn’t an option.    The houses are much smaller on base, often apartment-style homes.      Here is the Ramstein website:  http://www.ramstein.af.mil/library/factsheets/factsheet.asp?id=13946
TLF
When available, there is pet-friendly TLF on base and I believe they even have a dog park nearby.   We stayed off-base at a wonderful German lady’s apartments; Jon will book you here if there is nothing available on base.   She is also pet-friendly!  J
We had our packers pack us up the first week of May last year (and didn’t leave until Memorial Day weekend).   We own our house there in SC, so we just stayed until the renters moved in.   Then we stayed in TLF on base for a few days.   Once again, I’d recommend packing up your household goods as soon as you can.   You’ll want your own stuff as soon as you can get it once you get a house here.   You’ll be so glad to have something that feels normal and comforting J
Cell phones
We had Verizon Wireless in SC, so neither the plan nor the phone was able to be used here.   Thus, we canceled our service and got an Android phone once we arrived here in Germany ( I keep it J).  This allows me to have access to internet (which is really nice when traveling).   We also purchased a pre-paid cell phone (Jon gets it J, LOL).    They are not allowed to have a cell phone in their building here, so he thought it was a waste of $ to get a smartphone that he’d rarely use.   Obviously, that is up to you all but economically it was what worked best for us.    We will help you all out once you arrive to set this up, no worries!   If you have a smartphone in the states (iphone) I “think” they can be used here by switching out the SIM card.   However, do NOT quote me on that, I am technologically clueless!!!
GPS
If you have a GPS system, make sure updated European maps are loaded on it before you arrive.   If you don’t have one, the BX here sells them but they are pricey.   In short, you must have a good GPS here!  J
I am sure there are lots more you want to know, please ask!!   We will answer any questions, or get you information.    We look forward to meeting you both this fall.  This is truly a dream assignment- getting to live and travel in Europe J
Have a great weekend,
Jon and Tara
P.S.- If you all would like to talk via phone, we could always do that on a weekend.   Just let me know and we’ll set it up.   We have free calling to the states.


Side Note: When you get here your vehicle will go through a rigorous inspection. My van failed for a chip in the windshield (had been repaired) and I needed new tires. Repairs are way more expensive here than in the States so keep that in mind. You may want to have it looked at before you get here. 
Hours for your convenience! And it's run by Germans who take their job very seriously!

**Please feel free to post ANY questions you may have and I'll be more than happy to help out. 


Monday, March 26, 2012

Back to Trier ~ 2000 Page Views!

Oh man, Spring has arrived here in Germany and to be honest, I don't think there's a better time of year here. Even though we had an unseasonably warm winter with virtually no snow, I still couldn't wait for it to be over. I love spring. I love all the beautiful flowers, wearing flip flops and feeling the sun on my face. I love going hiking with the boys, enjoying the fresh air and nature. Yesterday Gabe and I went for a run together and it felt great. I am not a winter person and every spring I rediscover just how much I am not a winter person!
On Saturday we decided, sort of last minute, to go back to Trier. We went last year to their Ostermarkt (Easter Market) and hadn't been back since. There are so many cities we want to see that we rarely go back to revisit the ones we've already been to but we knew we had missed a few things last time we were here. Also, it was nice to revisit it and feel a little more confident in terms of getting around.
Ryan didn't want to share his banana and Nutella crepe
This is our buddy from last year
We knew we missed seeing the Amphitheater (Augusta Treverorum) and definitely wanted to check it out this time. The amphitheater is from the Roman period (100 AD) and can house 18,000 spectators. Since 1986 it has been part of the UNESCO world heritage Roman Monuments, Cathedral and Church of Our Lady in Trier. We parked about a half mile away and walked through what appeared to be the large city park. There were a lot of young people sitting out enjoying the weather.
As we entered the museum we saw this huge foot...of course I had to get my picture taken by it.
We paid €6 for the family to enter which I thought was reasonable not just because it's an historical landmark but there is also a free bathroom inside :-) The boys enjoyed running around the underground cellar area. and checking out all of the different "hallways" the actors used before their performances. 
Dylan's getting pretty good at taking pictures
Trier is a very cool city...Gabe and I even said to each other that we wouldn't mind living there. It's only about an hour drive from the base so it's perfect for a quick day trip especially when the weather is nice. 

On a side note:

YEAH! I just went over 2000 page views! To most people (who don't blog) that might seem like a "whatever" statement but to bloggers anytime you reach a milestone in term a readers it's pretty cool! 2000 isn't a huge number but I'll take it. I started this blog when we got here to Germany last year so that we could keep a journal of our travels and so that my mother-in-law (who doesn't have a Facebook account) could see what we're up to. I never print pictures anymore and if I did they'd probably never even make to the mailbox so this worked out well for both of us. I'm also in love with technology, photos, my mac and the internet so blogging is a perfect hobby for me. Once I started posting stories and saw that other people besides my mother-in-law were reading it I started to enjoy it even more. Weird or narcissistic...whatever you want to call it....it's the truth. Bloggers continue to write because they want other people to read it AND if they're lucky readers will sometimes leave a comment. So, here I am at 2000 and I hope that number grows.

I love that this site has become, in some ways, a guide to those who may be moving here. I like that people can read about the places we've been, things we have seen and what we've learned about living overseas. I didn't have that when we got here. It seems we had to learn everything on the fly... our "Sponsor" did the bare minimum in terms of preparing us for our move. I hope to keep adding useful information as well as document our experiences over here. 

Sunday, March 18, 2012

Bonfire in Oberstaufenbach

 A bonfire at the Townsend's. Perfect night for some Corn-Hole (great game, great name).
The "Ladies"
The whole crew
Jamie's drink gets too close to the fire
Tara helps us refill our Solo cups
Me, Mandy, Tara and Jamie
Jon is discussing world politics
Tara tries to explain to us what Jon is actually saying.
Drew and Jamie...that's the best shot I got of him.

Participation is Winning? ~ The Participation Trophy

I guess if Charlie Sheen is "Winning" then sure, we're ALL winners!

My neighbor posted something on my Facebook page about how he'd read my blog if I started writing one called "antiparticipationtrophymom.blogspot.com". Of course, I laughed and then I thought...HELL, that's not a bad idea. If I didn't have adult ADD (self-diagnosed) I'd start that blog today and manage 10 blogs about the ridiculous blind following that many parents seems to be doing these days. I'm "Anti" many things it seems when it comes to participating in our cultural demise. We're failing to prepare our youth for potential, or shall I say, inevitable losses in their lives. Kids won't learn what it really takes to win if they never experience a loss. And how will they ever learn responsibility?...What a concept.

My 8 year old plays soccer. He's an average player....think he scored 2 goals last season?? I don't know, I don't keep a journal of mediocrity but as we approached the end of the season I was asked by the Team Mom to contribute $8...for the trophy fund. I took a deep breath, pulled out my wallet and reluctantly handed it over. Not because I believed my son's 2 goals warranted a trophy or that $8 was going to break the bank but because "All the other Moms were doing it"  UGH! WHY? I hate that...I do it every season. I know I can't be the only parent who feels this way!?! You can't tell them "No thanks, I don't believe my son deserves a trophy and this sanctimonious b.s. just isn't for me but thank you anyway." I may as well have a 3rd eyeball growing out of head...the looks I'd get for that comment; which by the way, is the one I get when I suggest we skip the "Snack Mom" routine.

Anyway, at the end of the season the Team Mom has planned a "Pizza Party"....Oooh...yay! Complete with a cake and sodas! AWESOME! (insert sarcasm) and the kids all go up, one by one, and get their "Participation Trophy" and the coach tells them they did a FANTASTIC job (showing up) and how they improved...Blah, blah, blah! Great. I see my son is happy and that makes me happy but this kind of happiness isn't REAL HAPPINESS. It's made up, produced by a plastic token of victory. I want my son to experience the AUTHENTIC kind, the kind that comes with hard work and dedication...earned with sweat and secured after feeling a sense of accomplishment. Instead, he goes home thinking all it takes is showing up. 

So, my my son showed up, maybe learned a few more skills (or at least ran around a lot) and played  6 games where they didn't keep score. HE DOES NOT DESERVE A TROPHY! There, I said it! He's awesome, a great kid but he did not "Win" anything! So now I have a little soccer trophy sitting next to his baseball trophies and wrestling trophy collecting dust. I don't even want to know how many we'll end up with by the time he moves out....and by "WE" I mean "ME" because Lord knows, no kid leaves for college and packs their participation trophies to showcase in their dorm room.

I'm no "Tiger Mother". I understand the psychology behind positive reinforcement and my kids get plenty of that. I tell them all the time what a great job they did and how proud I am  of them but when they need it I also tell them the truth. If they could work a little harder, need to practice little more, etc... They understand that I do that because I love them. I want them to succeed and to fight when the going gets tough. They need to know that they either earned it or need to try harder. 

Now I ask, really? Are we really ALL "winners'? NO. NOPE. Not everyone is a winner. Just like not everyone on the soccer field is David Beckham (sorry, he's the only one I can think of) but I guess all we can really do take it into our own hands. Have the conversation with our children. Break it down to them so that they understand that the trophy isn't the real prize and that if they work hard but fall down every once in a while..that's ok, that it's all about the journey and in the end hopefully, they'll reap the REAL rewards of victory.

Monday, March 12, 2012

Living In Germany

You've all seen these going around on Facebook and maybe it's been overdone but I couldn't help but laugh at this one because it's SO true! I was convinced before I got here that my life in Germany would consist of drinking at Oktoberfest-like festivals and traveling all around Europe...more or less...I thought we'd be on one big giant 3 year long vacation!! Well, that's not exactly the case. Although we have done our fair share of traveling, most days we're just doing what what we did in the States. We run our kids to practice, volunteer at the school, go the grocery store, clean the house....not exactly exciting.

I love the 3rd picture. The autobahn. I believed what I heard about the autobahn being a freeway with NO speed limit. Well, that's not exactly true. There are stretches where you can go as fast as you want but in our experience, it seems like as soon as you pick up speed (in a minivan that can take while) all the sudden....BRAAAAKE!!! There's a speed limit sign and it may slow you down to 100 km/hr...that's like 60 miles/hr!! YIKES! And the worst part, if you don't slow down they snap your picture and send you ticket in the mail.

Picture #5 is SO TRUE!! Americans do love their big SUVs and trucks but let's face it....we bought those vehicles in the States where gas is relatively cheap (Germans pay €1.59/liter =  $7.91/gal) and parking spaces are huge! Then we get orders over here and ship our vehicle only to find out that the roads are narrow (often like a one lane country road) and the parking spaces are made for a Smart car. After you finally park your vehicle, you open your door ever so carefully, suck in your gut and slowly sliiiiide out. It's no wonder everyone leaves Germany with dings and dents. Did I mention the looks you get? Oh, yeah...don't be surprised if you get evil glares (and the occasional comment) from Germans standing there watching you park. They really are disgusted.

Here's a picture of my parking handiwork:
And the last photo: YEP! That's us in a nutshell. We spend most of our time standing around, looking confused. Learning a whole new system is not easy. Even their trash/recycling system was confusing at first. I have an app on my phone to help me with conversions. I can't even use my oven without having to do a math equation. Don't even get me started on the language. Did you know that just like America there are different dialects? Depending on which region you're in, the little German you know may still sound foreign to them.

So, just when you think that moving to another country is going to be like one long vacation full of adventure and fun...just remember...unless you're Paris Hilton, you still have to wash your floors just like you did back home!

Sunday, March 11, 2012

Daylight Saving Time - in Germany

Daylight Saving Time in Germany is different than in The States....usually by a week or two. In most of the countries of Western Europe, including the countries that are members of the EU, Daylight Saving Time:
  • begins at 1:00 a.m. GMT on the last Sunday of March and
  • ends at 1:00 a.m. GMT on the last Sunday of October
This year it starts on Sunday, 25 March and ends on Sunday, 28 October.


BRIEF HISTORY: Daylight Saving Time has been used in the U.S. and in many European countries since World War I. At that time, in an effort to conserve fuel needed to produce electric power, Germany and Austria took time by the forelock, and began saving daylight at 11:00 p.m. on April 30, 1916, by advancing the hands of the clock one hour until the following October. The plan was not formally adopted in the U.S. until 1918. 'An Act to preserve daylight and provide standard time for the United States' was enacted on March 19, 1918. Not all people believe that Daylight Saving Time is worth while. Until April 12, 1966, there was no uniformed law to force people to observe it. That's when President Lyndon Johnson, created Daylight Saving Time to begin on the last Sunday of April and to end on the last Sunday of October and said any State that wanted to be exempt from Daylight Saving Time could do so by passing a state law.